Happy is the Breeze

There are memories that never seem to fade from the landscape of my life’s meanderings. Like an Eastern NC sand burr, they continuously catch and attach to the fabric of my wandering thoughts, requiring the painstaking chore of extraction. There is no ignoring a sand burr once you are aware of their firm attachment to your party of one.
sticker-field-sandburYears ago I was asked by my pastor, “Are you happy here?”
“I’m not clear on what you’re getting at.”, I replied.
Without relinquishing, the question was reposed, “Are you happy at (name of job I worked at the time)?”

I recall a similar question posed years before the other. “Why are you here?”, asked a deacon of the church I served at the time.
I responded similarly, “What do you mean?”
“Why are you here, right now, at (name of job I worked at the time)?”
“Because it’s my job.”, I replied slightly confused and dismissively.
“No, not good enough. What is your reason for being here today, tomorrow, and the day after, and so on?” Like the extraction of a sand burr, this line of questioning continued for a few minutes.

Over years of living days into nights into days, these particular memories of completed conversations have continued to infuse ongoing conversations. They have led me to answer the question, “Why…?”, anew, afresh, again and again.

I am grateful to my inquisitive companions for their distracting questions that subtly guided me to realize that I prefer meaningfulness over happiness. And…I have come to learn that there is a profound difference between meaningfulness and happiness. Though there is a harmonic kinship in the experience of meaningfulness and happiness, we can find ourself dreadfully misplaced if we negotiate our journey towards happiness, targeting it as the destination…the intended end. Pursuing destinations of meaningfulness or happiness have the power to become a moment’s…a day’s…a life’s purpose. Give me a path of meaning. Happy is the breeze.

Defy Gravity

YOU MUST NOT ENABLE PEOPLE TO DISABLE YOU

Social media is a marketplace of diversity & variety.  It is a cacophony of emotions, opinions, impulses, and useful/insightful/trivial/rich information.
I love it…and I’m betting you do, too!

But as you wade into it, or interact with it,
remember this:

Don’t allow anyone’s words to thoughtlessly bully or distract you from what you believe is your life’s mission/purpose/destiny.

Consider the source.  “Consider the Source” means — only take opinions seriously that are informed. Uninformed opinions are only statements about the psychological state of the opinion holder — which may be important in some contexts.

Most of us desire, or are conditioned, to give people the benefit of the doubt.  We may know that the wise thing is to “consider the source” when encountering an action or opinion, but we often hesitate to be too judgemental or critical in our consideration of someone else.  Instead of considering the source, we will, instead, allow insidious self-doubt to creep into our minds and turn our passions and ambitions into insipid memories.  In other words, we can needlessly allow the gravitational pull of others’ words to weigh in our spirits pulling us down, becoming de-winged, and we sit on the bench.

Know this:
There are a lot of unhappy & hurt people all around you; online and otherwise. Henry Thoreau wrote, and I believe, that most of the folks that you and I know are living their lives in “quiet desperation”…and they will leak their despair.

Looking over the horizon

There is great truth to “hurt people hurt people”!  Whether intentional or not, words are a salve or a dart! YOU MUST NOT ENABLE PEOPLE TO DISABLE YOU. Instead, remain salt & light. Honor the Lord, love people, & keep your eye on your horizon.

20 years ago, God lifted me from the miry clay & He put a new song in my mouth. Sometimes I sing that song loud and clear…other times it gets a little pitchy due to my flesh and nature. I try to remember and live by Proverbs 3:3.  It states, “Do not let kindness and truth leave you; Bind them around your neck, Write them on the tablet of your heart.”

As you pursue your course, #defygravity#seekwisdom#liveabundantly, and keep on interacting with people!  You may be the breath of fresh air that their soul needs.